Archive | Wednesday , February 24 , 2010

UK Mirror Article: British, Punjabi, Stud, Jay Sean Talks About Sex & Relationships.

Jay Sean: Five minutes with a sex god

By Lyndsey Gilmour 21/02/2010

After his No1 hit Down, the Brit singer, 26, became a pin-up. He talks about his sex symbol status, keeping women happy in the sack and, er, good moisturising habits

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Have you ever had a fashion faux pas?
Once I went to a premiere and I think I was trying to be trendy by wearing this thin scarf, except it was really colourful and it looked bizarre. I hope nobody finds the photo. I’m really into fashion and don’t need people telling me what’s a trendy look because I don’t necessarily go for what’s in right now. I know skinny jeans are in fashion, but my legs will look stupid in them, so I wear things that suit me.

How vain are you?
I have a personal trainer for the gym. I mainly do weights but I run two or three times a week. It keeps you in a good mood. I’ve been cursed with fat kid syndrome, so when I go off a diet, I get fat. When I was young I was real chubby – there are pictures of me aged 17 where you wouldn’t recognise me, I had a beard that covered most of my face. I was basically big, fat and hairy!

Are you metrosexual?
I’m aware of the need to look after myself. I was in the Caribbean the other week and noticed that women look good after the age of 50 but men just get fat and bald. I use moisturiser in the day and at night I swear by The Art Of Shaving products because shaving can affect the way your skin looks. But it’s expensive.

Would you rather be complimented on your brains or your body?
In this industry, I find it refreshing when people say, ‘It’s nice to meet a pop star who is slightly intelligent.’ On that note, I’ll say body. Ha ha!

How would you rate your looks out of 10?
What would be an alright thing to say here? Eight? I’m happy. I often get complimented for my eyelashes.

What does a girl have to wear to get you going?
I have a serious thing about heels. If a girl is wearing a sexy pair of shoes, that will drive me bonkers. I’m very traditional – I’m a blokey-bloke who likes a sexy little girl to wear high, high heels. I’m not into tomboys.

How highly would your girlfriend rate you in the sack?
I think I’m pretty good actually. I’ve never had any complaints. I think if you are a giver – as long as you sort her out first – then you get no complaints. I’d say nine, but there is always room for improvement in any situation.

Ever joined the mile-high club?
No! I think that’s rubbish. I don’t want to have my arse squeezed against the toilet sink in a tiny plane. I can’t be bothered with all that.

Where is the strangest place you have done it?
There was one time I did it on a pier, it was quite nice actually – romantic, but I’m not going into details.

If you could look like another man, who would it be?
I was only thinking the other day that Rob Lowe is a good-looking bloke. He doesn’t get enough credit. Brad steals all the credit.

What’s the kinkiest bit of fan mail you’ve ever received?
I’ve had some weird things. I got a picture from a girl who had super-imposed a picture of herself next to me and then – here’s the best part – she put a baby in between us.

Have you ever had a rude dream about someone you shouldn’t have?
Sometimes I wake up in the morning and go, ‘Aaaaagh! What was I dreaming about her for?’ Like work people or girlfriends of friends – I’ve had loads like that.

What turns you on and off a girl?
A turn-on for me is a fun personality. I don’t care how fit you are, if you don’t have a nice personality I don’t care. I hate stuck-up girls.

Do you have a ‘cougar’ crush?
Salma Hayek has a great look. I guess she’s around 40. (She’s 43)

Is African Economist Dambisa Moyo’s Weave Hurting Her Message About African Emancipation From Neocolonialism?

Some Africans are very  upset that economist Dambisa Moyo is rocking a weave. Weave politics is a very important issue in the African Disapora.

Dambisa Moyo she is an intelligent, glamorous, Zambian born economist. I think it is wonderful that an African woman is speaking up about African economics and politics.

I respect Dambisa Moyo, her educational credentials cannot be disputed. Ms. Moyo is an expert on the topic of economics and that’s why I believe her book “Dead Aid” is a very important book.

Ms. Moyo’s accomplishments are very impressive, she has a doctorate degree in economics from Oxford University, she also holds a  MBA degree from Harvard. In addition, Ms. Moyo holds a MBA in finance and a Bachelor of Science degree in chemistry from American University in Washington D.C.

For centuries, the social constructions of African womanhood has been very negative. African women have been dehumanized since slavery that they are not beautiful, sexually desirable, or feminine.

Of course, black women have challenged the racism, patriarchy, and misogyny. Black women  are beautiful, sexually desirable and feminine.

However, the discourse is,  black women must conform to whiteness in order to be palatable to the mainstream culture.

Weave politics is a very serious issue. For instance, a few years ago a white female Glamour Magazine editor criticized black women that wear the afro and other natural hair styles such as twists and braids.

Some black women have been fired from their jobs and encountered employment discrimination for not wearing weaves or getting perms to straighten their hair.

Black men we have it easy, we can just walk into a barber shop get a hair cut for twenty dollars and that’s it. For black women, hair is a controversial issue

and yes hair has an impact on the lives of black women and black families.

Some African women believe they must conform to Eurocentric standards of beauty in order to be successful in society. For instance, in the pop culture,  Tyra Banks,  Beyonce, Venus & Serena Williams, are examples of  beautiful black women yet they all wear weaves.

The question remains, why do black women wear weaves when they have their own “natural hair?”

The American pop star John Mayer’s racist and misogynist comments in Playboy Magazine about black women presents  a modern example of this  dehumanization of black women.

Mayer’s comments attempt to separate black women from their rightful place in femininity. The subliminal messages of Mayer’s comments are that white women are more feminine than black women.

Dambisa Moyo she criticizes white pop stars Madonna, Bono, and Bob Geldof as being  “white saviours”. She believes the white celebrities intentions for the African continent are  racist and not altruistic.

However, another point to consider is, isn’t Dambisa Moyo also dishonest?

Hair is an important symbol of what a person thinks of herself . A hair style is a  presentation, it is an image a person presents to the world.

However, I wonder if some of the complaints about Ms. Moyo’s weave are sexist? After all,  why are people paying close attention to Dambisa’s Moyo’s appearance? Should it matter that Dambisa Moyo wears a weave?

Ms. Moyo she wears this brown mop on her head yet it appears to me her mind is still colonized. For instance, Mary J Blige and Beyonce are hypocritical, they construct this image that they are  strong black women yet they wear blonde weaves.  Mary J Blige and Beyonce are conforming to Eurocentirc standards of beauty.  I feel that blonde weaves are not a good look on black women. I believe blonde weaves reinforce images that black women are conforming to white standards of beauty.

Now, for people who don’t know  “weave politics” I  suggest  you watch Chris Rock’s documentary “Good Hair.”

A weave is basically  hair, it can be “real hair” which is more expensive or “processed hair”.

A woman can purchase the weave from a store or  hair salon and a professional styles the hair to make the weave appear to appear authentic.

Some Africans, believe Ms. Moyo is very hypocritical, that her weave distrupts and blurs her polemical book. Some critics charge Ms. Moyo she is sending mixed messages.

For instance, in Dambisa Moyo’s book “Dead Aid”,she  says that African countries must become independent from the Occident.  Her argument is the Occidental countries should cut off foreign aid within ten years. According to Ms. Moyo, foreign aid does not allow African economies to grow and be independent from neocolonialism .

Ms. Moyo argues that foreign aid creates a cycle of dependency and allows corrupt African governments to obtain “free money.” Ms. Moyo believes the corrupt African countries are not developing the infrastructure within their own countries. For instance, foreign agencies are creating schools, providing health care, and education.

Ms. Moyo’s message is that paternalism, racism, and neocolonialism are the root cause for foreign aid. The Occident wants to keep African nations poor in order to maintain the revenue that African countries generate for their economies.

However, Ms. Moyo’s African critics charge she is a hypocrite, she is preaching to the world that Africans must become independent from Europeans yet Ms. Moyo conforms to Eurocentric standards of beauty.

Shouldn’t Ms. Moyo take her own advice and cut off her weave and wear a natural hairstyle? Did Ms. Moyo’s publicists or agents tell her that a weave is important to sell her book to a white audience?

I am not suggesting that Ms. Moyo should not wear the weave if this is the hair style she feels most comfortable with. However, I can also see the argument of  the African people they believe  Dambisa Moyo’s  appearance cannot be separated from her message.

Dutch Gold Medalist Sven Kramer Asks NBC Reporter “Are You Stupid?”

Last week, Sevn Kramer of the Netherlands, won the gold medal in the men’s speed skating competition. However, Kramer was furious when an NBC reporter asked him about his biography. Kramer snapped “are you stupid?” I can understand that Kramer  was upset but speed skating is more popular in Europe than in North America.

Last Night, I Read My Poetry At A Symposium For The First Time.

Although, my first book “You Don’t Know Me”, was published almost five years ago,last night was the first time I read my poetry to an audience.  A few weeks ago, during a heterosexualities lecture, the professor said there will be a symposium on campus  and the deadline to submit was on February 5th 2010.

The word “symposium”  originated from  ancient Greece and the word means a “drinking party”. Now in the modern era, academics, scholars, and artists, talk about their research and work to an audience.

I remember the cognitive behavioral therapy sessions group therapy from last fall and I told myself I have to do this. I want to be a successful poet and artist  I realize I got to “get out there” and learn to  perform in front of people. I can’t just submit poetry to magazines and get published.

Last night, I  conducted a presentation and read some poems to an audience.

My discussion was about the importance of confessional poetry. I write confessional poetry in the tradition of Anne Sexton and Syliva Plath.

I explained to the audience that I can’t just “write” a poem on the spot. My poetry emerges from my life experiences I have to “feel something” in order to write a poem.

Of course, I was a little bit nervous about reading my poems to an audience but I just told myself to try my best. I read five poems and I feel good. After the symposium,  I even got a certificate for presenting at the symposium!


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