Huffington Post Article: Travolta, Gay or Not Gay… Why Should We Care?

Juliet Jeske

New York-based comedian

Speculation on John Travolta’s sexual orientation has dogged the actor for years. Is he or isn’t he gay? He has been married to actress Kelly Preston since 1991. Publicly, they have always maintained that their marriage is completely traditional. So why do these rumors persist? Is it mere speculation? Is he living a secret homosexual life? Is he an easy target because of the roles that he has played? I have a somewhat vested interest in this story, because nearly three years ago I left my husband when I discovered he was gay. I have a particular disdain for the “closet” and for anyone perpetuating secrets and lies about their sexual orientation.

John Travolta is far from the only high-profile personality who has dealt with these types of accusations. Others have included Tom Cruise, Ryan Seacrest, George Clooney, Kelly Clarkson, Alicia Keys, and even Oprah Winfrey. In the case of Travolta, most of the allegations have been from men seeking monetary gain, although not all of them have sought money, as one man simply went to the press with his story. Then there is Vikki Lizzi, the longtime girlfriend of the now-deceased actor Jeff Conaway. She now claims that years ago Travolta sexually assaulted her partner while he was sleeping. It is difficult to ascertain her reasoning for revealing this accusation now, as her deceased partner cannot corroborate the story. But at the same time, what does she have to gain from telling it? Was she paid for her story, or does she feel it is simply the time to be upfront and set the record straight (or in this case, set the record “gay”) now that multiple accusers have surfaced?

Ultimately, someone’s sexual orientation is his or her own business. Travolta should be free to love and have sex with whomever he wants and not need to broadcast it to the world. However, if he is hiding his true nature and living in the closet, he is setting a horrible example for young gay men and women. Moreover, if he is using a straight spouse as cover, he is sending the message that to survive, you must hide and take others down with you.

If he is using his wife as a sort of prop and she doesn’t know it, then she has my deepest sympathies, although if she entered this marriage with full knowledge that her husband was gay or bisexual and that occasional sexual affairs were part of the bargain, then none of this is our business. Travolta’s religion, Scientology, has had a somewhat uneven history on the subject of homosexuality. The church officially states that it is one of tolerance toward gay people, but the original teachings of L. Ron Hubbard read as very homophobic. But it is not as if John Travolta is condemning the lives of gay people or working to suppress gay rights, like the hypocritical Ted Haggard, who was condemning gay people from the pulpit, only to later acknowledge having had gay affairs.

However, if Travolta is gay and feels the need to hide is sexual orientation in order to have a successful acting career, then that is a tragedy, for his family and for him. The “closet” is a suffocating place to be; it forces a person to constantly lie and live in fear. They must lie to their loved ones, themselves, and their partners. If these accusations about Travolta are true, then I suspect that some of his gay partners might be coming out now due to resentment toward him for getting to have his cake and eat it, too — that is, living the life of a straight man, free of the societal stigma, harassment, bullying, and discrimination that gay people face, while secretly seeking gay sexual encounters. Having personally dealt with a closeted gay husband, this cuts me to the bone. Most people in my position didn’t know the truth until we’d invested years, sometimes decades, into a marriage, and we don’t have multimillion-dollar estates to soften the blow.

With changing attitudes toward homosexuality and greater acceptance of gay people, no one should have to live like this. Other openly gay or bisexual actors like Zachary Quinto, Rupert Everett, Ian McKellen, Neil Patrick Harris, Ellen DeGeneres, Portia de Rossi, Jane Lynch, and Alan Cumming haven’t hurt their careers by coming out. After all, an actor’s job is to play roles. We all know that Travolta is not the same man who was an assassin for hire in Pulp Fiction, nor is he Edna Turnblad from Hairspray. Plenty of women were swooning when Zachary Quinto portrayed Spock in the last Star Trek movie, even though we suspected he was gay. Travolta’s sex life is his own personal business, but if his marriage is a fraud, then I wish he would come clean. If more gay men were open and proud, we would have much less suffering, and no misled spouses like me. I would never want anyone else to go through what I have gone through. Living life as one half of someone else’s lie is a torture I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

Power 105.1 Radio Interview: Rap Diva Lil Kim Explains The Real Reason Behind Her Feud With Nicki Minaj!!!

Lil Kim is  is currently on tour across the United States to reclaim her throne as the Queen of  hip hop. This 105.5 interview is  interesting because Lil Kim accuses Cash Money Records of stealing  her sound and tracks. Remember, Lil Kim released her first album Hard Core in 1996 which obtained double platinum certification in the United States. Lil Kim has released several platinum albums she’s one of the most successful female rappers of all time.

Lil Kim stands her ground with the male radio hosts in this interview!

According to Lil Kim,  the media and the rap industry are  sexist against female rappers. Lil Kim argues the music industry seems to only want one top female rap artist at a time.

However, in the past Eve, Queen Latifah, MC Lyte, Lil Kim, Foxy Brown were all successful female rappers. In the past, female rappers got a long and worked together.

Lil Kim has been in the music industry for over fifteen years.  Lil Kim also says that Nicki Minaj is an obnoxious person. I can’t wait to hear Nicki’s response!!!

Excellent Montreal Gazette Article Explains The Reasons Quebec Students Continue To Protest Tuition Hikes!!!

Quebec student protests: what’s keeping them motivated?

BY DONNA NEBENZAHL, MONTREAL GAZETTE MAY 26, 2012
In this May 20, 2012 file photo, protesters opposing Quebec student tuition fee hikes demonstrate in Montreal. Some 150,000 students in more than a dozen Quebec colleges and universities have been on strike since February to protest the provincial government’s plan to raise tuition fees.

In this May 20, 2012 file photo, protesters opposing Quebec student tuition fee hikes demonstrate in Montreal. Some 150,000 students in more than a dozen Quebec colleges and universities have been on strike since February to protest the provincial government’s plan to raise tuition fees.

Photograph by: Graham Hughes , AP

MONTREAL – The urge to protest against university tuition hikes might seem foolhardy when students face the possible loss of a school semester, the sacrifice of time spent marching whatever the weather, not to mention the danger of confronting helmeted police, and the increasingly likely possibility of injury and arrest.

Yet they continue to do so, as worried parents fret, pundits fume and the government of Quebec Premier Jean Charest remains set squarely against them.

So why are the students so determined to keep this protest alive?

First of all, they’re highly motivated even if their actions make them uncomfortable, says social psychologist Benjamin Giguere. His research paper on the 2005 Quebec student strike that routed the Charest government’s plan to cut $103 million in bursaries examined the determinants of collective action.

“The average person protesting isn’t typically someone who is causing social disorder,” said Giguere. “And even if it’s a bit scary when there are others breaking things, they go back, to walk in the rain.”

They do this, paradoxically, because they care enough to make sacrifices in the hope of helping the group, and because this movement has offered something many students have discovered over the passing weeks – a sense of shared identity and shared grievance.

This is the winning combination, according to Giguere, who has recently completed a postdoctoral fellowship at McGill University and is heading to the University of Guelph this fall. “They may individually have other types of struggles,” he said, “but it is the culmination of perceived shared grievances that leads to collective action.”

This sharing has put students on the streets for weeks – 14 and counting. “It’s a lot of effort, to come out every night, for many days in a row, making this happen,” he said. “And even if we see the students questioning themselves, and some of them show signs of lack of self-control, they’re still coming out. There has to be motivation; it’s not just an impulse. They feel a bond, a reason to connect.”

Young people have always been crucial participants in protest movements, says Francis Fox Piven, a political sociologist at the Graduate Centre, City University of New York, who in 2006 published Challenging Authority: How Ordinary People Change America. “First, they’re energetic and stronger, needed qualities in a protest,” she said. “They’re also more hopeful and enthusiastic; they still believe that the world can be a better place.”

Student protest also raises another dimension, she says, one that we might have underestimated: We believe as a society that education is the way to get ahead and improve our social status, but while most students want to be educated and therefore have a good life, universities are becoming less and less accessible.

In Canada the cost of education is much less than in the U.S., where university is only accessible, Piven says, “on the condition that students accept onerous levels of indebtedness.” But even here, according to the Canadian Federation of Students – representing more than one-half million students from more than 80 universities and colleges across the country – student debt now totals more than $14.5 billion, with the level of Quebec student debt among the lowest at $13,300 per student. That’s right alongside Newfoundland and Labrador, where there have been minimal tuition increases since 1999 and where, in 2007, student debt fell after the province implemented a needs-based grant program.

“We are in a situation where it has never been more expensive to get a post-secondary education, or more of a requirement,” said Roxanne Dubois, national chairperson of the CFS, “which is why despite the fact that tuition fees are going up, students realize they need that piece of paper to make a decent living in Canada.”

But rather than investing in post-secondary education, “governments want us to pay,” she says, echoing the sentiment of many students marching in Quebec today.

A lot can happen on a university campus, a fertile ground for ideas, says Bruce Hicks, political science professor at Concordia University. “It’s about ideology, and a youthful desire to change the world.

“Youth very much believe that ideas are powerful,” he said. “In Quebec, an ideological debate is taking place in which government and students are on different sides.”

While an average person might look at the protest about tuition increases and get a limited message on a visceral level – one that is often tainted by reports of violence – the students see education as a right, an investment in the future of society, he says. “Quebec students aren’t looking at the American model of education, which can be had on borrowed money. They’re looking at the European model, like Scandinavia, where not only is tuition free but you get money for books and ancillary costs.”

The other aspect that makes Quebec different from the rest of Canada and the U.S., he says, has to do with this province’s history of militant unionism that is very much a part of the social fabric.

The sharing of grievances – feeling disadvantaged or short-changed – has led to a growing sense of shared identity, the force that gives student protest its impetus and power as an agent of change, Giguere says. Many of these protesters believe “that their behaviour is going to change something. If as a group they agree with this, then it is real for them and they’re motivated.”

In the United States, Piven says, development is often described in terms of the role of elites and the effects of institutions, where change happens gradually. “We black out the history of the great movements that have changed history dramatically.”

The history of protest movements is rarely cited, she says; even students protesting today are unaware of the impact of protest movements on the pattern of our development.

The student movement of the 1960s, she points out, protested against the exploitation of higher education. “They protested the corporatization of the university. Little did they know how much this trend would accelerate.”

The Occupy movement is closely linked with recent student protests, Piven says, because its underlying theme is the rise of extreme inequality, which protesters believe cannot coexist with democracy. “Now it’s the neglected notion of free education.”

She uses her own university, City University of New York, as a case in point. Founded in 1847 as the City College of New York, “its purpose was to provide free education to the children of working people,” Piven says. So the college was free until 1977-78, when New York faced a fiscal crisis.

“The banks had become very influential in the resolution of that crisis and forced union cutbacks and wage cutbacks – and started tuition at CUNY,” she said. “What could have justified eliminating that free education, when we were a richer country?”

At CUNY, and across the world, students have increasingly turned out to protest against tuition hikes. Students marched there last week, as they had in November, the same month police pepper sprayed protesters at University of California, Davis. Tuition fee protests have been held from Ontario to the U.K., Chile to New Zealand.

In March 2011, students were part of the more than 250,000-strong march in Central London against spending cuts. They marched again in November, in large part through the efforts of the National Union of Students, a confederation of 600 student unions throughout the U.K. whose main tenets are “Equality, Democracy, Collectivism.”

Students, NUS president Liam Burns said recently in The Gazette, “face an unprecedented attack on our future before it even begins.”

And while protest movements don’t win everything they want, they do win some things, Piven says. “Sit-down strikes got unionization, a protest movement was responsible for the abolition of slavery, the Great Society was the victory of the black freedom movements.”

The protest movement against tuition increases with its symbolic red square is now being discussed around the world. Perhaps that red square is a pivotal symbol of these protests, or perhaps it’s the new law – Bill 78, which curtails assembly – that has brought criticism of government from new quarters.

Described as excessive by the Canadian Bar Association, it has prompted Louis Masson, president of the Quebec Bar Association, to comment that while we must respect the law, “we must also respect fundamental freedoms, like the freedom to protest peacefully, the freedom of speech and the freedom of association.”

Several sections of Bill 78 will likely be struck down, constitutional lawyer Julius Grey told The Gazette on Tuesday. “There’s no doubt that this contravenes the charter on all kinds of grounds.”

The concern about Bill 78 might actually engender much-needed sympathy for the student cause, because a movement succeeds when it reaches people, says Hicks. He describes this change as an emotional heuristic, something that does not necessarily tap into an idea but the emotion behind it. “Something can happen that will resonate with people, causing them to either switch sides or move farther in the direction in which they’re already moving. It’s a groundbreaking moment, which isn’t about politics or the media.”

What students choose to do in the coming weeks and months will flow from their continued bond, their “coming together over perceived shared issues that builds a sense of struggle,” as Gigure says.

They are motivated to change, and every action counts, says NUS leader Burns, who wrote in the Huffington Post last year: “Even our smallest choices make a difference, and some of them can end up having a bigger effect than we could possibly have imagined.”

Read more:http://www.montrealgazette.com/news/Quebec+student+protests+what+keeping+them+motivated/6684697/story.html#ixzz1w0mulu78

Agnieszka Radwanska Wins The Brussels Open Her Third WTA Tour Title Of The Year!!!

Agnieszka Radwanska of Poland won the Brussels Open defeating Simona Halep of Romania 7-5 6-0. Halep played well but got tight serving for the first set in the tenth game. Agnieszka broke Halep’s serve and cruised to victory she  continues to rise in the WTA tour rankings to career high of number three.  I love Agnieszka’s game because she changes the speed of the tennis ball by using slice, angles, drop shots,  and lobs.  Agnieszka has improved from a ranking of number eight in the world in January 2012 and now she is number three.

Agnieszka also won her her third WTA tour title of 2012 and the tenth of her career. I am very impressed with Agnieszka she doesn’t have the power game of the other top women but she is very smart. I want to see Agnieszka have a breakthrough in a grand slam it is time for her to win a major event!  The one area of Agnieszka’s game I want her to improve is her second serve. Victoria Azarenka has dominated Agnieszka this year defeating her six times in a row  because she just attacks her serve. Agnieszka will need to become more aggressive in the grand slam events if she wants to advance in her career.  It is surprising to me that Agnieszka has not reached a grand slam final yet but I believe she will.

Australian Tennis Star Lleyton Hewitt Gives A Preview Of The 2012 Men’s French Open Draw!!!

Days of Our Lives Clips: Will Horton Comes Out To Sonny, Lucas, & Sami.

Days of Our Lives is the last American soap to have a gay storyline on mainstream television. The character Will Horton’s coming out experience is well written but the pace is too slow.  Recently, Greg Meng the executive producer of Days of Our Lives stated that heterosexual women watch soaps for the romance.

I think some straight women would actually love to see Will and a relationship. The reticence of the Days of Our Lives producers is disappointing. How many times

can Will come out and tell everyone he’s gay? I believe Will deserves a love life just like the heterosexual characters. For instance, Chad and Melanie’s romance is so boring and they lack chemistry.

In this clip, Will’s mother Sami Brady walks out on her son when he tells her he is gay.

However, Will’s father Lucas is very compassionate, sensitive, and understanding. Lucas asks Will the right questions and I love the fact he questions Will about his friendship with Sonny.

In the second clip, you can see the intense chemistry Will and Sonny have with each other.  Will is in love with Sonny and vice versa. Sonny has more life experience than Will and he is afraid of being in love with his best friend.

I am surprised that Days of Our Lives writers haven’t given  Sonny more screen time he is a very  important part  of Will’s coming out story.

Author John Irving Reading From His New Book In One Person About Bisexual Protagonist Billy Abbott.

Quebec Students & Their Supporters Continue To Protests In Large Numbers Despite Quebec Government Crackdown!

New Blog Feature The Donations Button!!!

 

Hello everyone, there is a new feature on the blog which is a donate button. I enjoy making this blog interesting for the readers it takes a lot of time and effort to write interesting material. If you are interested in making a contribution to help me continue running the blog check the blog roll and donate.

Breaking News: Dharun Ravi Gets Thirty Day Jail Sentence & Three Years Probation For Gay Webcam Spy Case!!!

The liberal media and the gay mafia  made Dharun Ravi a scapegoat for Tyler Clementi’s death and I am glad the judge made the proper decision.

Some members of the gay community wanted to destroy Dharun Ravi’s life and their racism & prejudice against this young man was abhorrent.

I understand the anger some people have about Ravi’s actions but to try to blame him for Clementi’s death is ludicrous!

Dharun was not charged with Tyler Clementi’s death and this is an important point. Dharun did not push Tyler Clementi over the bridge. Lost in the media hysteria is the fact Clementi probably had mental health problems. Ravi was irresponsible and immature to spy on Clementi having sex with another man.

However, the jury recommended a ten year prison sentence which is just too harsh. Another issue the media ignored is the issue of race. Although race was not discussed in the trial, the fact remains Dharun Ravi was demonized by the liberal media since he is a man of colour.

On You Tube some posters are writing racist comments about Ravi which is disappointing but not surprising.

Ravi experienced xenophobia from the American media because he is South Asian. Ravi was constructed as the “other” he was viewed as “too different” and “not American”.

Meanwhile, Tyler Clementi was constructed by the press as the perfect victim.  I wish someone had reached out to Tyler Clementi at Rutgers University prior to his decision to end his life. Where were the support services for gay youth at Rutgers?

Dhaurn Ravi is only twenty years old and he will receive counseling. I hope that Dharun Ravi learns from this tragedy that being immature and spying on a roommate is unacceptable.

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